I have had this tab open on
my phone for months and months, waiting to be able to write this post.
Deuteronomy 28:12
The Lord will open the heavens,
the storehouse of his bounty, to send rain on your land in season and to bless
all the work of your hands. You will lend to many nations but will borrow from
none.
{And I have now had this post written for well over a month, waiting to be able to publish it. I wanted to wait because I wasn't sure what sort of internet access our kids had in the Philippines and I wanted to make sure this wasn't a post they would read any time soon. I know there will come a time when they realize the cost of adoption but it's not something I want them to know right now and it's certainly not something I want them to have to think about. I want them to know the miracles of Provision God gave us by way of timing and favor and so many other things, but I don't want them to feel like they "cost something" to us, at least not until they are old enough to see it for what it is.}
{And I have now had this post written for well over a month, waiting to be able to publish it. I wanted to wait because I wasn't sure what sort of internet access our kids had in the Philippines and I wanted to make sure this wasn't a post they would read any time soon. I know there will come a time when they realize the cost of adoption but it's not something I want them to know right now and it's certainly not something I want them to have to think about. I want them to know the miracles of Provision God gave us by way of timing and favor and so many other things, but I don't want them to feel like they "cost something" to us, at least not until they are old enough to see it for what it is.}
God will lavish you with good
things: children from your womb, offspring from your animals, and crops from
your land, the land that God promised your ancestors that he would give you.
God will throw open the doors of his sky vaults and pour rain on your land on
schedule and bless the work you take in hand. You will lend to many nations but
you yourself won’t have to take out a loan.
(The Message)
When we started to gather
information at the beginning of this adoption, we had the option of two
different agencies. The one I made initial contact with first was a little bit
cheaper than the one we decided to go with.
However, as this process has moved at lightning speed, I am 100% sure
that if we had gone with the other agency, we would not be preparing to pick
our kids up in the next month. Instead, we would be grieving the fact that our
oldest son aged out and trying to figure out what we would do from here.
The initial figure we
received was $37,000. That amount, however, was based on one kid instead of
three in several categories (airfare, certificate of citizenship, etc). In
addition, one figure in that total has tripled (thanks, US Government) since we
started the adoption. So, that’s tripled TIMES THREE. Some regulations have
changed as well and we are now required to have more post-placement visits,
which increases the amount we owe to our home study agency in Tennessee.
Additional trainings have been added, most of which cost money. Our airfare was more than anticipated, travel costs were higher than expected, etc, etc.. The total amount
for our adoption has ended up being $45,700.
A few things are not included
in the total above, but are things that we have worked in our shirt business
for, saved, or done a specific fundraiser for.
Not included in that total is
the price of airfare for Emma and Kelsey. We desperately wanted to save the
money to take them with us to get their brothers and sister, so that was
additional money we needed to save and work for through our shirt business.
We love the orphanage that
has loved our kids so well and want to be able to do something for them. We
inquired about needs and things we could bring and were told that it’s nice to
take your whole new family out shopping and buy things there to leave with the orphanage,
thus eliminating the need for suitcase space AND allowing your adopted children
a chance to feel like they are sowing back into a ministry that has served them
well. We are in the middle of a hat fundraiser to raise those funds for that.
Kraig and I wanted to do
something special for the staff at the orphanage and also possibly for the
other children there. That cost is not
included in the above total either.
One option for adoption
assistance is adoption grants. Our issue is that (we thought) ours was going to
be so fast that the window to apply for those grants fell the wrong way to
apply for most of them. We didn’t have our homestudy completed in time
(required) to hit the October deadlines and (we assumed and were wrong) we
would be finished before the April deadlines. We did find three grants we could
apply for, but we did not receive any of the three. Adoption grants come in
various amounts but many of them will provide between $7000 and $10,000. I
spent a lot of time terribly stressed out over the fact that we weren’t
eligible to apply for the grants that I KNEW we would have a good chance at
getting because if there’s one thing I can do, it’s write grants. This is a
perfect example of God removing all control from me throughout this process.
The FEW things I knew I could handle on my own were all things that He forced
me to rely on Him instead.
In November, shortly after
the grant deadlines all passed without a completed homestudy (deadlines were
October 31, homestudy arrived in our email November 1), we got the information
that an anonymous donor (we know the name of the donor but the donor wishes to
remain anonymous to others) wanted to give us a substantial amount for our
adoption. An amount that, at that time, would have brought us very close to
being fully funded after one more big fundraiser (the quarter auction). An
amount that was equal to several of the larger grants…. $15,000, an amount that
equaled close to HALF of our full total (at that time). I was ….
astounded. Kraig was… elated. God is… a
LAVISHING God of good things, to quote The Message translation of that verse.
God basically said to me through that donation that He will provide in the
least expected ways and the ways that don’t allow me to have control and
self-sufficiency. He could have let me write grants, let us get awarded grants,
let this donor keep this money, and He still would have been given the glory
for the grant awards. But do you know what? I would have, albeit it quietly and
in my heart, I would have kept a little of the glory for myself. I would have
known that *I* did that, that *I
* obviously could handle things at least some of the things, on my own. I
wouldn’t have known what it meant to fully and completely depend on Him for the
financial provision as much as the other pieces.
One
thing that I will admit I have always enjoyed is planning fundraising events.
As soon as we decided we were going through with this adoption, I sat down and
brainstormed a master list of fundraising events and ideas. We basically did a
fundraiser every month for the fall semester. We kicked things off with an
envelope donation event, which was very successful. We also made team tees and
sold them as an adoption fundraiser in September, did a 5K in October, had a
quarter auction in November, sold “Home Sweet Home” shirts in November and
December, and then hosted a Cottage Christmas Market in December for the
purpose of raising funds for needed household expansion expenses. We realized
pretty soon that, with these fundraisers, our significant donation, and
generous donors, we would not need to use any other items on our master list of
fundraisers (so if anyone needs any suggestions, I have a LOT, haha!). This
semester we have done a tshirt fundraiser of an “I Left My Heart in so Many
Places” tee designed by our Emma to push us to the end of our adoption bills.
All
along the way, we have been BEYOND blessed by people giving so generously to
our need. People have participated in our many fundraisers but they have also
just given… Just sent cash and coins and checks and paid for specific pieces
along the way. Two people very dear to us donated money specifically for Emma
and Kelsey’s airfare. One generous person bought the new mattresses we would
need. We had several people give significant amounts of money, some of whom
knew us and some of whom knew our kids.
Our church has supported us in intentional and generous ways. My mom paid for the plane tickets of our three new kids.
We
held a personalized cap fundraiser to raise funds to take with
us to the orphanage and to use on the staff gifts we want to take with us. I set up at a booth at a ladies conference to sell Ozark trail mugs,
tshirts, and hats.
All
of that to say, in 9 months, God provided us with the $45,700 needed for
our adoption, the travel costs for Emma and Kelsey, and funds to take generous
gifts to the orphanage and staff. When God says He gives lavish gifts, that’s
exactly what He does. When we first started this adoption, Kraig was deeply
concerned with the financial future of caring for 5 kids and I was overwhelmed
with the cost of the adoption itself. Within a couple of weeks, we traded places and
I became daunted by the costs of parenting five kids and he became worried
about a $37,500 (which became much more) bill. That is when I knew…. I KNEW…
that God was going to make a way. He doesn’t call you to something that He won’t
also bring you through, stand beside you, send those to walk with you and hold
up your arms. And it is through the experience of Him funding this adoption
that has shown both of us that He is also going to take care of our financial
future. When we almost double the size of our family, God will double the size
of our portion. It’s just who He is.
***Edited at time of publishing, today, June 26, to say that it was perfect timing for me to publish today because I got a rejection letter in the mail today from Show Hope, the Steven Curtis Chapman organization that provides generous grants very freely to adoptive families. I applied at the last minute when our plane ticket costs skyrocketed and hoped that by some miracle, I would get the grant in time to be allowed to accept the money (it must be before travel). Instead, today I got the rejection letter that, even if it had been awarding the money, we couldn't have taken anyway since our kids are already home. However, a letter stating that we had received a grant would have meant that God did not allow us and provide for us to fully fund this adoption without a single grant. So this was yet another piece of this miraculous puzzle of God working everything to the good of these three kids and us in ways that could not be explained by man.
***Edited at time of publishing, today, June 26, to say that it was perfect timing for me to publish today because I got a rejection letter in the mail today from Show Hope, the Steven Curtis Chapman organization that provides generous grants very freely to adoptive families. I applied at the last minute when our plane ticket costs skyrocketed and hoped that by some miracle, I would get the grant in time to be allowed to accept the money (it must be before travel). Instead, today I got the rejection letter that, even if it had been awarding the money, we couldn't have taken anyway since our kids are already home. However, a letter stating that we had received a grant would have meant that God did not allow us and provide for us to fully fund this adoption without a single grant. So this was yet another piece of this miraculous puzzle of God working everything to the good of these three kids and us in ways that could not be explained by man.